Okay so last Tuesday afternoon, I was kinda stuck thinking about this situation with someone – you know how it is, just going round and round in your head about how they might feel. Super annoying. Coffee wasn’t helping. Figured I’d grab my Rider-Waite deck and pull a card for “What’s the vibe here?”

Shuffled the cards while mumbling about communication and feelings – not like a pro or anything, just my usual clumsy way – hoping for some clarity. And bam, out pops the Queen of Wands, staring right at me. Honestly? My first reaction was a big fat “Huh?”

See, my head immediately jumped to “Oh, fire sign! Passion! Boom!” Like maybe she meant this super intense, in-your-face kinda feeling. Could that be it? Was someone feeling wildly confident or maybe just super attracted?

Didn’t sit right though. Felt too… loud? Like the vibes I was picking up weren’t really shouting. So I dumped the guidebook onto my messy coffee table – seriously, crumbs everywhere – and started flipping pages like mad. Right, the Queen of Wands section…

The descriptions hit different sides. Sure, confidence, warmth, charm. But then also this independent, “got her own thing going on” energy. Kinda magnetic, but also focused on her own path. Made me pause.

I started scribbling notes on a wrinkled grocery receipt:

• Is this feeling fiery attraction? Maybe, but maybe more “admires how bold/independent someone is”?
• Intense confidence? Or just genuine self-assuredness, no need for validation?
• What about that independence? Could it feel… kinda unapproachable? Like a “catch me if you can” vibe?
• The magnetism? Less about wanting something specific, more just appreciating the whole lively package?

Still felt fuzzy. Decided to test-drive these ideas. Later, chatting to a friend about her own messy situation, I mentally popped the Queen of Wands over her. My friend said the other person seemed “kinda flirty but super busy, always doing their own thing.” Ding ding ding! That independence vibe clicked. Feeling attracted to that busy, lively energy, not necessarily demanding attention from them. Total lightbulb moment.

So Here’s How I See It Now

Right, after chewing on this card all week and trying the interpretations in real life:

• Queen of Wands feelings? They’re probably feeling warm and genuinely attracted. Not necessarily shouting it, but appreciating you.
• Seeing that spark? Likely they admire your boldness, your confidence, your “doing your own thing” energy. Makes you stand out.
• Big BUT here. This Queen has her OWN kingdom, man. So that feeling? It might come with independence. They feel drawn, yes, but also see you as your own person, maybe needing less reassurance. Not clingy!
• The vibe? Think radiant warmth and lively attraction, mixed with respect for how independent you are. Less “obsessed,” more “damn, they’ve got that spark.”

Totally changed how I saw my own situation. Instead of looking for some intense “YOU ARE EVERYTHING” sign, the card points to admiration and warmth, but alongside that “they’ve got their own fire burning” recognition. Makes way more sense now. This card? It’s less about grand passion gestures, more about seeing and being drawn to someone’s inner light and drive. Pretty cool card actually, once you get past the initial “Queen staring you down” intimidation!